Wedding: The Jitters and Questions
“In love we often doubt what we most believe.”
Love happens, Golden period is going on, the date of wedding comes near, preparations are going on, relatives have confirmed their attendance, the date of wedding comes closer, the shopping is going on, the date comes very close, the salon is decided, the beautician is fixed, the date is looming over your head, it feels as if it is just tomorrow and you are scared, you feel like something is wrong, something is amiss, something should not be happening, wait a minute- you think the wedding should not be happening, it’s wrong, it is a hasty decision, a decision for which you need time, and then suddenly you start cursing yourself for thinking such things, you get sad because you thought about it in a negative manner, then there are mood swings, temper flares & emotional outbursts .
We all want to know how our stories will end and we want to know now. We want to know before the wedding if our marriage will last 50+ years. It is very scary to make any decision about the rest of our lives when we don’t feel we have all the answers.
Well, you just need to stay calm and relax. It is nothing but pre wedding jitters, a phenomenon that is just as common as is the concept of wedding. Pre-wedding jitters are one of society’s best-kept secrets and it’s important for you to understand that these feelings, their intensity, and even their frequency have nothing to do with the quality of your relationship with your future spouse and your ability to have a happy and enduring marriage.
The best way to get through the jitters is to talk about them. If you have siblings or close friends who are already married, ask them how they felt in the weeks and days before their wedding. Talk with your mom, aunt or even your grandmother — people who have been through the jitters and survived. Talking everything through can help ease your concerns.