VIDAI – THE EMOTIONAL CEREMONY OF WEDDING
Vidai in wedding – It’s a dual ceremony of joy & sorrow both as the parents of bride has to give their daughter responsibility in the son in laws hand, the daughter whom they have given birth & bought up with lots of love & care and now they have to hand over to another family where she has to follow their life style. She as to leave her parental home & family members. As a tradition the parents right decreases once the daughter is given vidai. They are happy also that their daughter has now become a woman & she will live ever happily with her husband. It’s a very tough bonding which as to be released to follow the tradition.
Everyone dreams of getting married someday to someone. Wedding is therefore a cherished moment, which is more of a dream come true. However, after the dream realizes, it’s time for the bride to leave her house. This emerges out as the most painful moment of all.This is what the Indian wedding Vidai ceremony is all about.
In India, Vidaai is a post wedding ceremony, which takes place after the wedding rituals are completed. This means that after the seven pheras and kanyadaan this is the major ritual that takes place. During the vidai ceremony the bride is accompanied by her parents and associates, which lead her outside the doorstep of the house. Before crossing the doorstep, she throws back three handfuls of rice and coins over her head, into the house. This symbolizes that the bride is repaying her parents for all that they have given her so far.
Moreover, in India girls are considered the manifestation of Goddess Lakshmi, the deity of wealth and prosperity. Thus, while leaving, the bride practices the ritual to keep wealth and prosperity intact in her home. This is the most emotional moment of the complete marriage ceremony as the bride’s family and friends bids her a teary farewell. With this they also bless her for a happy married life.
The Father of the Bride is usually the last one in line to bid his daughter farewell before handing her off to her new life – her now husband. He requests of the Groom to care for his daughter and forgive her for her mistakes, to be a constant guide through their marital journey, essentially handing away his most cherished and beloved possession. This crucial moment defines this ritual and gives it its memorable emotional connection – a father’s love for his daughter in its true form.
No matter what, this is one of those moments that will make anyone cry. While I love the whole western idea of getting into car and driving away in happiness, a wedding is full of so many emotions, especially the goodbyes. So why not let family and friends get a moment to cry their hearts out?
The couple steps into a car decorated and adorned for the occasion and commence their final farewell. The brother and cousins of the Bride help push the vehicle as an indication of their acceptance of their new voyage into marital bliss and watch as they drive away from the wedding venue.
Best wishes for all the newly wedded couples from Mangal Phera (dreams are woven here..)
The forever hit song played at the time of vidai……………………………….
baabul ki duaaen leti ja, ja tujh ko sukhi sansaar mile
maike ki kabhi na yaad aae, sasuraal men itana pyaar mile
baabul ki duaaen…………………..
naazon se tujhe paala maine, kaliyon ki tarah, phoolon ki tarah
bachapan men jhulaaya hai tujh ko, baanhon ne meri jhoolon ki tarah \-2
Mere baagh ki ai naazuk daali, tujhe har pal nai bahaar mile
baabul ki duaaen………………………
jis ghar se bandhe hain bhaag tere, us ghar men sada tera raaj rahe
honthon pe hansi ki dhoop khile, maathe pe khushi ka taaj rahe \-2
kabhi jis ki jyot na ho phiki, tujhe aisaa roop-singaar mile
baabul ki duaaen………………………
beeten tere jeevan ki ghadiyaan, aaraam ki thandi chhaanvon men
kaanta bhi na chubhane paae kabhi, meri laadali tere paanvon men \-2
Us dvaar se bhi dukh dur rahen, jis dvaar se tera dvaar mile
baabul ki duaaen……………………
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